The Five Love Languages are a tool to help us discover how we best receive love as well as how we can better love all of the most important people in our lives. Join us in our six-week “love language experiment” to reset our relationships and kick off 2021 with intentionality!

Discussion Questions for The Five Love Languages Pt3 | January 17, 2021

  1. Check in on how the week is going. Does anyone have a celebration to share from the past week – a way they can brag on their spouse for something they did that made you feel loved?? How is it going tracking your love tank and talking about it each day? 
  1. Tell us how your gift exchanges went! What gifts did you give each other? How did you feel when debriefing your gifts? Did you come away with any takeaways you’d be willing to share?
  1. If anyone in the group has Quality Time as their primary love language, ask them to share a little about what that is like for them. Ask a question such as, “What resonates with you when we talk about someone spending time with you as an expression of love?” Allow group members to ask them questions as well in order to gain a little more insight from their perspective.
  1. What stood out to you from the sermon? Did you hear any ideas that were new? Encouraging? Challenging?
  1. What do you think are the biggest barriers to you spending quality time with your spouse?
  1. What are some quality activities you and your spouse enjoy doing together? Is there an activity you’ve never done together that you’d like to try? What is it?
  1. Discuss the 8 tips for learning to listen – 1) Maintain eye contact, 2) Avoid multitasking, 3) Listen for feelings, 4) Observe body language, 5) Refuse to interrupt, 6) Ask reflective questions, 7) Express empathy, 8) Ask if there’s anything you can do to help. Do you consider yourself a good “quality conversation” listener? Can you identify ways you can become a better listener?
  1. We talked about establishing 3 rhythms for anyone with a spouse whose love language is Quality Time – a daily rhythm of 15-20 minutes to do a quality activity or have a quality conversation together, a weekly rhythm of a date night, and a somewhat regular rhythm of a weekend getaway. Do these rhythms seem helpful? Which ones do you think you might embrace? Which ones do you resist, and why?

Love Language Experiment Reminders:

  • If you haven’t already, set a goal on your Love Nudge app for this week. Remember, the challenge was to spend a 3-hour block of quality (distraction & device-free) time with your spouse this week. You can either choose one activity to do together that will take the whole time, or you can each choose a shorter activity to do together. Each of you should come prepared with a list of 5 questions to ask the other, aiming at learning at least one new thing about your spouse in the process.
  • Keep tracking your love tank on the app and discussing it daily with your spouse.