The Five Love Languages are a tool to help us discover how we best receive love as well as how we can better love all of the most important people in our lives. Join us in our six-week “love language experiment” to reset our relationships and kick off 2021 with intentionality!

Discussion Questions for The Five Love Languages Pt2 | January 10, 2021

  1. To kick off this week’s discussion, go around and have everyone share what their primary love language is. (Also, have each couple edit their Zoom name to be both of their first names – i.e. “Phil & Emily”. Do this each week to help the group learn each other’s names.)
  1. Check in on how the week is going. Does anyone have a celebration to share from the past week – a way they can brag on their spouse for something they did that made you feel loved??
  1. Did everyone set a goal on their Love Nudge app for this week? Remember, the challenge was to give your spouse one gift this week (Wed at the earliest, after playing “detective” for a couple days) and then debrief the gift exchange, giving your spouse feedback on their gift-giving.
    • If your group meets on or after Wed, see if anyone has already done their gift exchange and find out how it went!
  1. How is it going tracking your love tank and talking about it each day? 
  1. If anyone in the group has Gifts as their primary love language, ask them to share a little about what that is like for them. Ask a question such as, “What resonates with you when we talk about giving and receiving gifts as an expression of love?”
  1. What stood out to you from the sermon? Did you hear any ideas that were new? Encouraging? Challenging?
  1. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received? What makes it stand out in your mind as being a great gift?
  1. If your house was on fire, what one item would you grab to save? (It can’t be something boring or overly practical, like your phone or computer.) Why is this item so valuable to you?
  1. Do you find speaking the love language of Gifts difficult, or does it come naturally for you? Explain.
  1. How often do you give gifts to the people you love?
  1. In your conversation with others, do you consciously listen for gift ideas? Do you think keeping a potential gift list would be helpful for you?
  1. In what ways might gifts be both an immediate and lasting investment in your marriage?
  1. If you’ve never seen a “Five Love Languages Gift Guide,” it’s basically a list of gift ideas specific to each of the five love languages. (For example, for someone whose primary love language is Words of Affirmation, one gift idea would be a bracelet engraved with a word or phrase that describes them. For Acts of Service, a gift idea is to hire a housecleaning service to come clean your home. For Quality Time, a gift might be a romantic weekend getaway.) What are some other gift ideas you can think of that someone whose primary love language is Words of Affirmation might appreciate? How about for Quality Time? Acts of Service? Physical Touch?

Love Language Experiment Reminders:

  • If you haven’t already, set a goal on your Love Nudge app to give one gift to your spouse this week. Remember, first spend a couple days being a “detective,” figuring out what they might like. Once you both have your gifts ready, do the exchange. Then, give feedback about what you like about the gift they gave you as well as any tweaks you might suggest for the next time they want to give you a gift.
  • Keep tracking your love tank on the app and discussing it daily with your spouse.